Saturday, July 30, 2011

Mourning

The death of a loved family member forces me deep into myself facing painful and beautiful memories.

I mourn alone but I believe it is a unique and necessary solitary experience, beautiful in a way.

I think of my Grandfather and he will always be the strong patriarch ... even though his last few months he was so weakened and frail. I will think of him tending to his garden with so much love and pride. I will think of the way he smiled and laughed often. I will think of his tenderness and love he gave to his grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I am proud to call him grandfather.

Thank you for your presence in my life.

Goodbye and may you rest peacefully.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

This is not NECESSARILY about the Casey Anthony trial ...

I have heard quite a bit of banter these days regarding injustice and the typical response I hear, "Well, they will get theirs" in a Karma-ish manner.


Hmmm.


It disturbs me to think that we have turned into a nation of avoidance. We are a frightened bunch of people ... we don't want to be the ones that actually hurt someone but we want to believe that justice will be served by someone else. NOT ME. I don't want to be the responsible person ... let someone ELSE do it.


But this is deeper than that ...


I also notice some extremely weak minded people that allow themselves to be manipulated by a stronger force ... or not necessarily stronger but more manipulative and instead of people standing up for themselves they allow themselves to be swept away by manipulation.


We have turned into a nation of wimps.


Several years ago I was attending graduate school for Elementary Education. I wanted to teach children ... imagine that. In one of my classes we were discussing the recent and over abundance of violence in the schools. The teacher advised us to do nothing if a child has a gun in the classroom. I thought to myself ... hmmm ... if a child between the ages of 6 thru 11 has a gun in my classroom and I am the teacher responsible for those students ... you better believe that I would DO something. First off, even if the child is large ... his aim probably won't be very good ... and instead of watching this child shot or threaten to shoot I would attempt to remove the gun from the childs hands. Kick a desk toward the child then lunge at his hand. It only requires a quick action and reaction. Maybe I'll get shot but chances are the shot won't kill me ... in the arm or in the leg.


But if you stand there and allow a child to shoot other children and you do nothing ... nothing at all ... how could you ever live with yourself?


I'm not a hero. I don't have a hero mindset but I do believe that we all must sometimes fight for what is right. We all must stand up to injustice and not believe that someone ELSE will do something about it. We can all have a bit of hero in us, it wouldn't take much ... a bit of self confidence, a dash of personal responsibility, a little less believing every single word you read or hear ... and a huge dose of knowing and understanding your own mind. Maybe that is what we are missing ... we watch TV and listen to the radio and absorb others opinions ... turn off the TV ... go live your own life by doing things and develop your own MIND with your own experiences. Build your own knowledge by reading books and some classic literature. Challenge yourself, read things and do things you know you will hate.


Don't push the responsibility on to others ... with the "they will get theirs in the end" type of attitude ... maybe YOU are the one that has been tasked with that responsibility.


Don't be so easily fooled ... if it doesn't feel like the right thing to do ... there is no reason to go along with the popular belief.


It may be a cliche but some of those have value ... if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and looks like a duck, it must be a duck.


Assume the obvious!

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Changes

It's been a very long time since I felt the desire to write and this blog has been long neglected.

I doubt that anyone would notice whether or not I am writing today but so be it ... I feel the need to write again.

I am now separated; soon to be divorced. I'm not exactly sure I am ready to talk about it in depth, so I will save that discussion for later. Maybe.

I do, however, want to talk about my lovely ladies, my girlys, my gorgeousnesses and my sun and moon.

Today my Showstopper ran into the house asking me to make healthy snacks while the neighborhood kids made posters to educate everyone of the benefits of eating all natural foods ... HUH? This from the child that doesn't eat anything that doesn't have a Frito-Lay label on the bag?

Showstopper assisted in making homemade apple cider frozen popsicles, banana smoothie frozen ice-cubes and freshly squeezed orange juice. While everything went into the freezer/fridge ... she ran off to make posters.

...An hour later I asked the girls to run to the store with me so I could buy some clorine for the pool ... they stomped and argued ... I dragged them along kicking and screaming ... then they decided it was time for lunch and begged for McDonalds.

Well, at least the idea of eating healthy enters into Showstoppers head now and again.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

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We now return you to your program.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Tis the *@$%)&!)(@L#!! Season

I'm cranky.

It's not really about Christmas time or anything, although I feel a bit overwhelmed with it all this year and I'm not exactly sure why I feel this way. It is enough that I KNOW I feel this way that is keeping me tied in knots. But that isn't why I'm cranky.

I have a tooth ache and while I ignore the pain a realization came to me today. A realization that disgusts me. A realization that makes me believe that human beings can sometimes SUCK!

I guess I should say ... not all human beings SUCK but I believe we probably have all sucked at one time or another. I believe we have all done something that is pretty shitty sometime in our lives. Fess up! Come on! You know that there is at least one offensive thing you have done! Most of us, can laugh about it now. Most of us have seriously minor infractions.

I'm looking at my new identification cards for my new dental insurance plan and it frustrates me. My tooth hurts and I know it's gonna cost me money and probably some serious pain.

I had a incident with a dentist some time back and it left a really bad taste in my mouth. Simply put, a dentist seriously took advantage of me and my lack of knowledge of the insurance industry (THIS IS WHAT PISSES ME OFF!). I don't ask for other people to know about my job and my technical lingo ... but be warned ... if you don't know everything there is to know about dentists that ACCEPT insurance versus those that PARTICIPATE you could receive a bill for $500 in the mail for fillings in BABY TEETH (white ones of course, because silver ones are completely covered for baby teeth ... the white ones are not). The insurance company paid over $300 for these fillings and I had to pay close to $500 ... $800 to fill 3 baby teeth which took less than 2 hours in total. Yep. No wonder this particular dentist lives in Upper Saint Clair.

That was several years ago and it pisses me off because I asked the correct questions I just didn't use their technical terms and because I didn't I was responsible for the money.

Today it rushes at me because I have to call my dentist and possibly others to find one that PARTICIPATES in my new dental plan. If they merely accept my insurance it means they ACCEPT the money that the insurance company sends them BUT they can BILL me for the remaining cost (at their discretion). If the dentist PARTICIPATES in the insurance plan, this means they must accept the payment that the insurance sends them as payment in full (excluding whatever copay you have with the plan).

If all people were decent and kind - I would have understood this concept BEFORE I was sent a bill for $500; but this is the only way for this particular dentist to afford his luxury home in Upper Saint Clair you see ...

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Merry *@$%)&!)(@L#!! Christmas everyone.



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I guess it's all about perspective.

Look at these images if you are feeling a bit out of sorts ... it will put you back on the right track.

The Best of Photojournalism 2006 (Enterprise Picture Story) and then go back a level for even more pictures with a story to tell.

Yep, that'll do it for sure. My gripings hardly compare to what others endure.

Sunday, November 22, 2009

A Work In Progress

I've been very hard at work coming up with my list of sexy songs.

I've listened to many friends (on Facebook); I added some recommendations; I didn't add them all because some songs are just plain hard to find.

And in the end I've realized it's not the lyrics that make a great song great ... at least not for me... I like angst most of all.

Some songs are about heartache not sex ... but that to me is still sexy. The pain caused by love is sexy to me. Guess I'm a bit of a masochist; not really but love is love and whether it feels good or bad ... it makes the blood flow and makes the days of dullness disappear. Isn't that what we want most of all...excitement, newness, specialness ... to feel something.

And that is sexy!

So enough chatter.

My List (so far)

Ain't No Sunshine - Bill Withers
All Cried Out - Alison Moyet
All I Want is You - U2
All of My Love - Led Zeppelin
All Right Now - Free
All The Girls Love Alice - Elton John
Amoreena - Elton John
And I love Her - Beatles
Babe - Styx
Baby Blue - DMB
Baby Can't Wait - Maktub
Baby Its You - Smith
Baby, I love Your Way - Peter Frampton
Beautiful Crazy - Space Raiders
A Beautiful Morning - The Rascals
Best I Ever Had - Vertical Horizon
Beth - Kiss
Between the Sheets - Isley Brothers
The Blower's Daughter - Damien Rice
Can't Get Enough - Bad Company
Can't Get You Out of my Head - Kylie Minogue
Can't Help Falling In Love - UB40
Candy's Room - Bruce Springsteen
Cannonball - Damien Rice
Caught Up In You - 38 Special
Closer - NIN
The Closer I Get to You - Roberta Flack
Come Back and Stay - Paul Young
Come Back to Bed - John Mayer
Come Be with Me - Bird York
Comin' Back to Me - Jefferson Airplane
Cradle of Love - Billy Idol
Crash Into Me - DMB
Crazy - Patsy Cline
Crazy on You - Heart
Crush - Jennifer Paige
D'yer Mak'er - Led Zeppelin
Destiny - Zero 7
Dirty Little Girl - Elton John
Distant Lover - Marvin Gaye
Do I Move You - Nina Simone
Do Ya Think I'm Sexy - Rod Stewart
Do You Wanna Touch Me? - Joan Jet
Don't Cry - Guns N Roses
Don't Give Up - Peter Gabriel
Don't Panic - Coldplay
Euphoria - Delerium
Every time I think of you - The Babys
Fade Into You - Mazzy Star
Feel Like Makin Love - Bad Company
Feelin' Love - Paula Cole
The First Taste - Fiona Apple
The First Time Ever I saw Your Face - Roberta Flack
Flesh for Fantasy - Billy Idol
Flow - Nuno Bettencourt
Flower - Liz Phair
Futuresex Lovesound - Justin Timberlake
Giving Him Something He Can Feel - Aretha Franklin
Got to Get You Into My Life - Beatles
Green Eyes - Coldplay
The Heart Brings You Back - Blues Traveler
Here I Go Again - Whitesnake
Here Without You - 3 Doors Down
Here, There and Everywhere - Beatles
Hold On Loosely - 38 Special
The Hounds of Winter - Sting
How Can You Mend a Broken Heart - Al Green
How Deep is Your Love - Bee Gees
Hungry For Your Love - Van Morrison
I'd Do Anything for Love - Meat Loaf
I'll Be your Lover too - Van Morrison
I'm In You - Peter Frampton
I'm Still in Love with You - Al Green
I've Been Loving You Too Long - Otis Redding
I've Fallen In Love With You - Joss Stone
I've Got to see You Again - Norah Jones
I Am Ready for Love - India.Arie
I can't tell You Why - Eagles
I Couldn't Love You More - Sade
I Do What I Do - John Taylor
I Had A Dream - Joss Stone
I Hate Myself for Loving you - Joan Jeff
I Just Died In Your Arms Tonight - Cutting Crew
I Love You More Than You'll Ever Know - Blood, Sweat and Tears
I Need A Man- Eurythmics
I Never Loved A Man - Aretha Franklin
I Only Have Eyes For You - The Flamingos
I Want You (She's So Heavy) - Beatles
I Want You - Alana Davis
I Want You - Marvin Gaye
I Was Made for Lovin' You - Kiss
If I Should Lose You - Nina Simone
In the Waiting Line - Zero 7
In Your Eyes - Peter Gabriel
Is This Love - Whitesnake
It's a Man's Man's Man's World - James Brown
Just to be Close to you - Commodores
Kiss Me - Sixpence None The Richer ????
The Lemon Song - Led Zepplin
Let Me Put My Love Into You - ACDC
Lets Get it On - Marvin Gaye
The Letter - Joe Cocker
Like a Stone - Audioslave
Little Wing - Jimi Hendrix
Love and Happiness - Al Green
Love Walked in - Thunder
Lover - Devendra Banhart
Maybe - Alison Krauss
Maybe I'm Just Blind - 3 Doors Down
Maybe Tomorrow - Stereophonics
Melissa - The Allman Brothers Band
Midnight - Yaz
Miracles - Jefferson Starship
Misguided Angel - Cowboy Junkies
Mmm - Laura Izibor
Moonlight Mile - The Rolling Stones
More and More - Blood, Sweat and Tears
My Heart Can't Tell Me No - Rod Stewart
Never Tear Us Apart - Inxs
Never, Never Gonna Give You Up - Barry White
No More I Love Yous - Annie Lennox
Nothing Compares 2 U - Sinead O'Conner
Perfect World - Laura Izibor
Piece of My Heart - Big Brother & the Holding Company
Playground Love - Air
Rain - Candlebox
The Reason - Hoobastank
Reason Why - Rachael Yamagata
Restless - Alison Krauss
Ring On The Sill - Cowboy Junkies
Rush You - Baby Animals
Sex - Berlin
Shadow Boxer - Fiona Apple
She's Always A Woman - Billy Joel
Slave To Love - Bryan Ferry
Sleep to Dream Her - DMB
Slow Like Honey - Fiona Apple
So Far Away - Staind
Somewhere Down the Crazy River - Robbie Robertson
Song to the Siren - Robert Plant
Sorry Seems to be the Hardest Word - Joe Cocker
Stay - Coal
Strange and Beautiful - Aqualung
Sweet Painted Lady - Elton John
Sweet Thing - Van Morrison
Sweet Thing - Chaka Khan
Sweetest Thing - U2
Then We'll Know - Maktub
These Eyes - Guess Who
This City Never Sleeps - Eurythmics
To Make You Feel My Love - Billy Joel
Try A Little Tenderness - Otis Redding
Werewolf - Cat Power
What Am I Gonna Do With You - Barry White
What Do I Have To Do - Stabbing Westward
When A Man Loves A Woman - Percy Sledge
Where Are You Going - DMB
Whole Lotta Love - Led Zeppelin
Why Don't We Do It in the Rain - Beatles
Wicked Game - Chris Isaak
Wild Horses - The Rolling Stones
Wild Is The Wind - Nina Simone
Willow - Joan Armatrading
With or Without you - U2
You're a God - Veritcal Horizon
You've Made Me So Very Happy - Blood, Sweat & Tears
You Belong to Me - Michael Buble
You Can Leave Your Hat On - Joe Cocker
You Don't Have To Say You Love Me - Dusty Springfield
You Really Got Me - The Kinks
You Still Need Me - Baby Animals
You Took The Words Right Out of My Mouth - Meat Loaf
You Will Be My Ain True Love - Alison Krauss
#1 Crush - Garbage

Saturday, November 21, 2009

More than a little vindicated

Most of you know that I've had issues with my WildChild until we discovered 'The Feingold Diet' (which is NOT just for ADHD children) and the problems decreased dramatically.

We haven't been too diligent on this diet these days and the affects are obvious. Since Halloween my WildChild has received 4 demerits and what seemed to have been long gone temper tantrums have returned. Lucky me!

Finally...FINALLY...someone that most people respect has stated that there is a definite connection in some kids with food dye consumption and behavior problems.

I can't tell you how much better I feel knowing that millions of Oprah Magazine will read that there is a link and it is best to avoid.

The UK has banned some dyes; and others come with warnings on food.

I feel sooooo much better.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Silliness

I am crazy!

I am ... you are ... we are ... YEPPERS. The whole world is crazy.

UGH, unfortunately the whole world is NOT crazy.

There are some sane individuals on this planet. I don't particularly like the sane people. I think they disturb the fabric of the universe by sending us partially insane individuals off kilter; they make us question our insanity; they treat us like we are irresponsible or silly or just plain stupid.

What is that all about? Hmmm?

Aren't seriously insane people happier? Don't they stress less, live longer? Don't they get to play games and finger paint and create all day versus of us mildly insane people that sit in a cubical 8-10 hours a day WISHING and WANTING to finger paint and create and play all day?

I think the seriously insane did it right and we are the ones that are holding onto a bit of sanity that we have left and it's because of them. YEP. The sane ones, they judge us ... they insist that we hold on to the itty bit of sanity we have left.

I hate [expletives] hate sane people ...especially the ones without a sense of humor ... damn.

Can we send all of the sane people, especially the ones without a sense of humor to another planet ... let them live out there in space for awhile. I'm sure at the beginning they would love to have a community full of all sane people; all functional and responsible.

After a year or two or three the lack of oxygen will affect their brains, possibly make them certifiably insane and us mildly insane folks will RULE THE UNIVERSE.

I guarantee the mildly insane will not choose to sit in cubicles all day.

Mildly insane people UNITE!

Hmmm?

Is it a plan?





I couldn't decide which one to post ... different versions of insanity; both so lovely.

This post was inspired by this song. The song spontaneously popped into my brain today. That is my story and I'm sticking to it, unless you torture me and then I may tell ya just about anything.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Something new ... or borrowed but not blue

It is said that a blogger must decide it's niche and stick to it to ensure loyal readers.

I say FIE!

Well, I say that primarily because I think I lost most of my loyal readers a long time ago when I stopped blogging for several months.

So I am announcing a bit of a switcheroo on the blogging niche for me.

I am and will forever me a MOMMY BLOGGER. I do love writing about my darling girlys, but ShowStopper hasn't been much of a pleaser these days (very mouthy and full of preteen angst) and the WildChild hasn't been much of a wild child (radically changing her diet mellowed her out nicely). I think it means I need to give them new nicknames...but that is indeed for another post.

This particular post is about ME! Yep, ME! Exciting and Energetic ME!

HA!

Well, lets just say that soon I will be both.

I am changing my diet. I am going RAW! I will be eating mostly uncooked foods (there are rules that apply here but we will get into all of it soon enough) in the hopes to improve my overall health, skin and weight maintenance (oh, and the most unsung benefit of them all ... looking YOUNGER!!!!!)

Can you believe I will accomplish all of those things simply by NOT cooking the food I eat? This doesn't mean I'll be eating raw eggs and raw meat ... no this means I'll be eating mostly fruits, vegetables and nuts in a variety of ways.

I will blog about my journey and provide you with information about why and how and where ... and about my successes and my failures ... things that I am learning or unlearning about nutrition. I hope this will be fun for you. I'll still write about other things too, but already I have learned so much that I feel I need to share these wonderful helpful amazing concepts and ideas with you. While I was writing this post I was snacking on some raw pumpkin seeds and it's as good as a place as any to talk about the benefits of raw foods; so here are some fun facts about raw pumpkin seeds (aka pepitas).


Raw Pumpkin Seeds are a protein rich snack that can be enjoyed all year long.
This wonderful source of nutrients and is naturally rich in essential fatty acids and contains many other nutrients such as magnesium, iron, phosphorus, copper, potassium, niacin, folic acid, zinc, B vitamins, vitamin A, vitamin E, riboflavin, thymine protein, and fiber.

They also contain pantothenic acid, unsaturated oils and antioxidants.

More on the Nutrition of Pumpkin & its Seeds



Here is a recipe, probably not a beginners one but darn it I had to have this one, looks so YUM!

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

When I Was Their Age

When I was 8 and 9 and 10 I remember sitting on the floor of my grandmothers house and flipping through the pages of the Sears Toy Catalog with tiney bits of drool dripping off of my chin.

My sister is 4 years youngers than me and we would flip through each page with greedy anticipation of Santa bringing us our hearts desire which would have been THE ENTIRE SEARS TOY CATALOG except for the stinking, icky, cucky boys toys. We eagerly flipped through that section quickly.

That catalog provided hours, no days, no weeks of entertainment for my sister and I. We imagined owning the Barbie Dreamhouse, Barbie Airplane, Barbie Convertibles and whatever else Mattel had for Barbies ... not to mention the dolls themselves. Oh and I loved Crissy dolls. Do you remember Crissy?

How about the Tiffany Taylor Doll? That one I had to look up ... I knew it was Taylor but couldn't remember the Tiffany part so I imagine she was a casual fancy. Crissy was never casual. EVER. It was the red hair. That red hair and stunning disco attire that kept me loving her for years and years. I bought a couple of Crissy dolls on eBay for my girls. They love her too. She is still their favorites even thou I have purchased many other updated dolls. They love their Crissy doll most of all.

Funny, huh?

I've digressed because now I have to tell you that my girls are not much interested in toys. How does this happen? They honestly do not want much in the way of toys. My girlys are 7 & 8 and they do not want toys. It is amazing to me.

The other day we got the Justice catalog in the mail and my girls spent hundreds and thousands of dollars on clothes and bags and shoes ... BLAH!

Yesterday someone dropped off an Avon catalog. My girl sat on the couch for hours circling and marking each page with hopeful anticipation that Santa would deliver her hearts desire ... everything from the A-V-O-N catalog.

AVON?

A V O N?

Really? I don't get it?

I just don't get it.

Does Santa have a Avon representative?

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.